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SHOULD WE CONSIDER
Couples Therapy?
The quality of our relationships can have a significant impact on our happiness, longevity, and even physical health. Feeling misunderstood, unheard, or disrespected can lower your confidence and self-esteem. If we are struggling to cope emotionally in our relationships, we can quickly begin to feel despairing and alone. This brings resentment, unwillingness to forgive, jealousy, anger, unhealthy habits, and deep emotional pain. Some problems just seem to escalate or repeat themselves without being resolved. This is often because people fall into patterns of unhealthy interaction making disagreements or problems worse.
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Most individuals and couples are driven to therapy because of a crisis such as infidelity, loss, or repetitive fighting. In relationships, we are bound to experience conflict, but conflict doesn’t have to be bad, and it certainly doesn’t have to mean the relationship is toxic. Optimizing conflict is key to a fulfilling relationship, one that supports you in improving the relationship you have with yourself.
MY METHODS AIM TO OPTIMISE CONFLICT IN THE RELATIONSHIP
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I specialize in conflict resolution and connection, helping couples see what they need to work on in themselves.
Interventions and techniques are offered to help break the cycle of perpetual arguing or recurring grid-lock conflict.
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First, we assess. We identify the root causes of the problem.
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Then, we develop healthy reactions and responses that enhance the relationship.
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REASONS TO
Consider Couples Therapy
INFIDELITY
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Is it possible to rebuild trust after your partner has been unfaithful? The loss of the relationship you envisioned can cause intense rage, jealousy, and sadness, and also raises many questions. Should you stay? Will things ever be the same? One thing is certain: learning to trust again is a slow process and we work on restoring the trust through three phases: Attone, Attune, Attach.
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MAJOR LIFE CHANGES
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Life transitions are like tides that can overwhelm even the strongest of marriages. We work to help you stay connected as a couple during major life transitions.
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YOUNG COUPLES
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The idea is that, instead of waiting for deep-rooted issues to surface, couples get help early on and make sure issues don’t have time to grow their roots. We work together to build a healthy, sustainable, and conscious relationship.
PRE-MARITAL COUNSELLING
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For couples to prepare and enhance their readiness for marriage.
This is done by helping partners identify issues in their relationship and equipping them with the skills needed to work through their present and future conflicts.
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PERPETUAL PROBLEMS AND GRIDLOCK CONFLICT
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Gridlocked problems become perpetual when they have been mishandled and have essentially calcified into something “uncomfortable.” We work on building emotional intelligence and developing skills for managing conflict and enhancing friendship. What matters is not solving perpetual problems, but rather the affect with which they are discussed.
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MY METHODS AIM TO OPTIMISE CONFLICT IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP
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I specialize in conflict resolution and connection, helping couples see what they need to work on in themselves.
Interventions and techniques are offered to help break the cycle of perpetual arguing or recurring grid-lock conflict.
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First, we assess. We identify the root causes of the problem.
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Then, we develop healthy reactions and responses that enhance the relationship.
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IN CLOSE RELATIONSHIPS, WE WILL INEVITABLY DISAPPOINT PEOPLE.
it's how we address it that matters
AS WE WORK TOGETHER
You'll Begin to Experience
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A change in behaviors and a shift in the patterns that have kept you stuck in the past.
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You will begin to transform conflict into growth.
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Your relationships will start to reshape through your own growing awareness.
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You will begin to create the life you envision, not the one scripted to you from your past conditioning.
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You will start to manage and understand your emotions better.
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We will begin to discover the root cause of your hurt and together we will release this negative emotion with all its attachments so that it will no longer have a hold on your life.
THE METHODOLOGIES I USE
THE GOTTMAN METHOD FOR COUPLES THERAPY
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This is an evidence-based form of couples therapy that strives to assist couples in achieving a deeper sense of understanding, awareness, empathy, and connectedness within their relationships that ultimately leads to heightened intimacy and interpersonal growth.
EMOTIONALLY FOCUSED THERAPY
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Based on 50 years of research into human bonding and 30 years of research into helping couples connect and thrive. Research has shown that Couples Therapy, using the EFT model, has achieved a 75% success rate with couples, with 86% of couples reporting feeling happier in their relationships.
EFT has also been proven to be effective with individuals suffering from trauma (particularly related to child abuse or neglect), depression, and interpersonal problems, including unresolved feelings towards past significant others and complicated grief.